DSC_1253It all started with a kitchen. We had decided it was time to replace our thirty year old kitchen with a shiny new model, complete with modern appliances. Goodbye to stained countertops that could no longer be cleaned, goodbye to the stove that only had three burners working, goodbye to that garburator that stole precious counter space with its bulky body and double sink…it was time to upgrade and move on. We chose our pieces, we bought our supplies, and we contracted a company to demolish and rebuild our kitchen. For one week our lives would be ripped apart with screws, boxes, deliveries, plumbing and electrical. Along with our new purchase, we also purchased the stress of home renovation. It’s a troublesome feeling – cold sweat beading on your skin, rapid heartbeat, tense muscles, sleepless nights, shallow breathing, clenched stomach, the sonorous sound of your blood roaring through your ears like it burst from a dam through your veins. And then, as an extra bonus, along comes the wearying arthritis flare.

Stress can appear in our lives at any time for any reason – financial worries, health issues, Aunt Mary’s pending surgery, car repairs, home repairs, work, family, the delay of Aunt Mary’s surgery – there are all kinds of challenges that cause our body to switch on autopilot and encounter an overload of adrenaline. Endorphins are suddenly charging through us like a herd of wild horses, setting off alarms, and causing unwanted symptoms. I notice an increase in disease activity during times of stress. Stress is a destructive party crasher, igniting flares, increasing fatigue and riling up the insufferable pain produced from inflammation. Ironically, it’s the body’s mystifying way of protecting us during taxing times, but it doesn’t feel much like protection. It feels a bit like being dragged out to the back of the schoolyard and beaten up for lunch money. Everyone is susceptible to stress, but the most vulnerable are those with chronic illness. People with chronic illness are already dealing with the effects of their disease; their immune systems may not have the potency to deal with stress in the same way as a healthy individual. Our bodies have an astounding ability to ward off permanent trauma by increasing adrenaline and turning on a built-in protection mode, but over the long-term this activity can become harmful, and therefore, must be quelled.

It’s important to manage as well as possible during times of stress. Be kind to yourself and try to engage in activities that soothe and pacify. Regular exercise is important, and more so when you have arthritis. Exercise is one way to strengthen our bodies and our minds, preparing ourselves to deal with those demanding moments. Meditation can aid in calming the mind and help us to focus. Take some time to enjoy a favourite activity or reach out to friends and family. I love yoga for restoring my energy and keeping me calm. I’ve heard tai chi is also an excellent tool, and I am looking forward to trying it. Sticking to a regular routine can help ease the clutter and provides an anchor that helps us cope. It’s amazing what comfort I can discover in something steady and familiar; it empowers me and refreshes my perspective. Give yourself permission to be selfish during rough times – this is your time to recharge your batteries and find the strength to push through.DSC_1264

Now, two weeks later, I have a new kitchen to play in, and my renovation flare has disappeared with the ruins of a three burner stove, just in time to be replaced by those classic holiday flares to jingle all the way. But no worries, I have a solution for that – rum and eggnog anyone?017



No Comments

  1. Grace on December 7, 2014 at 8:45 pm


    • J.G. Chayko on December 8, 2014 at 8:52 am

      Thank-you 🙂 It’s a relief to be done. Hope you are doing well. Cheers.

  2. Wren on December 7, 2014 at 8:51 pm

    What a lovely new kitchen! You’re so right that doing a remodel is stressful, JG–along with so many other things. Your advice to be gentle with yourself is excellent.

    Glad that the job is done now–and your only stress will be the good kind: enjoying family and friends for the holidays. 😀

    • J.G. Chayko on December 8, 2014 at 8:53 am

      Thanks Wren. I’m wishing you all the best for the holidays. Treat yourself to something special 🙂

  3. thenoveilst on December 7, 2014 at 11:36 pm

    Warm post – into yoga myself 🙂

    • J.G. Chayko on December 8, 2014 at 8:54 am

      I love my yoga, even though some mornings I’m not moving too well. Swimming is another fabulous choice. Hope all is well. Cheers.

      • thenoveilst on December 8, 2014 at 11:39 pm

        You’re welcome. Seasons blessings to you 🙂

  4. Irma on December 8, 2014 at 4:09 pm

    Oh, that is nice! Bet you’re glad that’s over and now you can enjoy the lovely results. Hope you have a wonderful holiday and the inflammation monster leaves you alone!

    • J.G. Chayko on December 12, 2014 at 3:42 pm

      A very warm and happy holiday greeting to you and yours, Irma. Wishing you health, happiness and everlasting inspiration.

  5. Carla Kienast on December 8, 2014 at 5:43 pm

    Congrats on the new kitchen! I got mine after our house flooded. (I like your plan better!) Take care of yourself!

    • J.G. Chayko on December 12, 2014 at 3:44 pm

      Oh no, your house flooded? Having to get a kitchen and just wanting to get one are two very different kinds of stress. Wishing you health and happiness over the holidays and a dry room in every part of your house. Stay well. Cheers.

Leave a Comment

The information on this site are stories based on my personal experiences and is not intended for medical advice. All content provided on this blog is for informational purposes only. The owner of this blog makes no representations as to the accuracy or completeness of any information on this site or found by following any link on this site. The owner will not be liable for any errors or omissions in this information nor for the availability of this information. The owner will not be liable for any losses, injuries, or damages from the display or use of this information. All content is original and owned by the author and shall not be used or duplicated without express and written permission.

If You Like What You See

Some people have inquired if there’s a place to donate on my blog. This is for those who would like to offer extra support for my work and I thank you for this.

A bigger thank you to all my readers who offer ongoing support simply by stopping by for a visit. I enjoy writing and interacting with you.

About me

J.G. Chayko is a writer, actress, and international arthritis advocate who’s been involved in theatre for more than 30 years and has published poetry, fiction, and creative non-fiction.